The internet has melted with the #YesAllWomen movement… A noble intention, although a bit misguided.
Women are using the hashtag to talk about their own experiences with sexual harassment or rape. They offer no substantial details however. One post I saw mentioned a fourteen year old getting molested on a bus and that the school did nothing… Without details, I feel this is being offered up as a Victorian witchhunt. How many women are adding their throwaway tweets just to be a part of something?
Ah, but Baron, that’s playing right into ‘Rape Culture’. The societal acceptance that women are often to blame for these issues. ‘Rape Culture’ has turned into its own beast where logical questions we should be asking cannot be, because to do so is playing into the problem and comes off misogynistic. As this is a misogynistic blog, I am able to mention that paradox here.
I find it shameful for the men and women adding to the “Yes, All Women” movement without any substance to their posts. It does not help the cause when the issue is: Women have been too silent for too long! To only blurt something out and then not follow up on any of it. How many rapes go unreported a year again? Same sort of issue. “I’ve been raped, but I will bear the pain of it myself and not report it except to select people!” … Wait, come again? That’s why this hashtag happened in the first place. By merely tweeting vague reports you are still staying silent!
But, let’s also look at another unsaid fact: Elliot Rodger did not rape anyone. Why women have turned this into a rape issue, I’m not sure. But there are a select number of women that are championing the cause to raise awareness that men think they are entitled to women.
That’s where the other misguidedness comes into play.
Rodger was a psycho. He blamed women for his social issues which in turn resulted in his inability to have a girlfriend. It’s hard to read his manifesto and not see that he’s the type of human being I doubt many people wanted to be around man or woman.
From the misogynist point of view, men of our mindset do not all think that we are entitled to women to have our way with. There’s no thrill in being given something, a woman to be a couple with. What misogynists want are to DOMINATE and ENSLAVE women. We do not think we are entitled to women simply because we are men - but because we’re strong enough to capture, break, and subjugate them.
This is the issue and feminist movements can pretend that the problem is something simple as men being ignorantly complacent in their depowering of women rights… But the truth is much darker. Men do not believe that women should naturally swoon us, there is both a winning them over consensually with our strength and sex appeal - and also the work of breaking and taming a woman like a wild mare. It’s that hunt that I’m willing to believe true misogynists get off on. Women should not be our sex slaves because they are women - that’s absurd. Women should be forced into sexual slavery because they were captured and broken.
The “Yes, All Women” movement then doesn’t do a whole lot to combat that mindset. It merely annoys the guilty men. They continue to see how they are more dominating. They are not complaining, they are enforcing their desires.
There’s of course a lesser tier of misogynists. There are simpleton college campus rapists. These lame men are not a major problem. Honestly, enforcement of college rape will better clean that up. Rodger was below even that tier. He was a horrible person, so could not attract a woman’s company. He became enraged by that and that rage swirled and swirled until it broke out into violence. He is still a small, small segment of the misogynist community… Sadly, all this scandal has done is fool people into thinking he’s part of a larger group. No, he’s an outcast even to the greater whole. Combating the weakest member of a pride is not going to strengthen your flock.
There’s one last truth that the “Yes, All Women” movement is overlooking… It isn’t all women over half of the the posts I’ve read even refer to. Again, it is cheapening a movement and giving men like me ammunition to use against the whole ordeal. If you are going to participate don’t just blurt something out, back it up. Don’t say your personal problem is a problem for every woman, because it probably is not. Even this post, misogynists do not want to enslave all women. That’s horribly ignorant. Most women aren’t blips on men’s radar. I don’t remember every woman I encounter on a daily basis, nor do I the men. I don’t sneak a peak at a woman’s bust size and remember it even five minutes later. If a woman wants to look at my penis pressed against my pants, go ahead of course. I am not foolhardy enough to think that admiring my body is objectifying me nor that a woman is going to get herself off on me later in the day.
Speaking as a man and not a misogynist, I only subjugate my woman in the bedroom. I’m not going out and kidnapping women to sell into sexual slavery, although we’ve role played that many times. Aside from this blog, I’m not posting my opinion anywhere else on the internet, I do not talk about it at work. As a man, misogyny is a kinky fetish, but I’m hardly championing it for actual civil rights. But I do think the YesAllWomen movement is flawed and it’s being handled extremely uneffectively. I cannot say this outside this blog because that would be immediately disregarded as misogyny. That is bothersome as it isn’t my misogyny fetish that is pointing out the logical fallacies. That’s common sense. It is my misogyny fetish that points out that men do not think we’re entitled to women; it’s that we want to conquer them in a feat of wills, strength, or whichever. If that makes them trophies to be won, I firmly believe that cheapens how people think we view women. Disassembling a woman into a trophy is not a turn on. We want them three dimensional, strong, and emotional. There is more appeal in breaking a fully rounded human being than winning over a feather headed skinny model.
Boo-hoo for the misogynists though, right?
